We get it: coming to agreements with someone you have come to _________ (distrust, despise, question, worry over, feel suspicious of, and/or wonder how you ever fell in love with years ago) can be a lot to ask. This is especially so if you find yourself feeling responsible for the house and the kids and the grocery shopping and the paycheck.
We’ve seen it: people who just want it to be over–yesterday, people who carry resent and contempt rooted in betrayal and anger, people who are so fragile they feel like the slightest change could crush them, and people who are simply exhausted from trying.
When given the choice, many would choose a mouthful of glass over trying to come to terms on important matters in a mediation.
Why? Because it’s hard and because no one goes into marriage thinking: “You know, some day when we get divorced, I know we’ll be super kind and compassionate to each other so the process is just as rewarding as registering for this lovely, agreed-upon china pattern.”
And because we get it, we give you room to speak your peace before rushing to resolution
And because we’ve seen it, we know that everyone’s process unfolds at their rate and particular to them.
And because we know, we offer kindness and compassion.
And cookies–usually molasses, never glass.